Show me the money… Show me the stuff. …. or what is coaching really worth.
Coaching is a fairly new industry. Everyone knows about the benefits of therapy. We are familiar with hiring consulting companies to help us build our business, but not sure how can coaching really help us personally and professionally.
I wanted to share my thoughts on this subject as a coach, but also as a client. I believe in coaching and will always have a coach myself. I like having someone who doesn’t believe in the negative stories I tell myself. Can bring me back to what I said was important to me in my life ( even if it was 3 weeks ago and everything changed) and who keeps me accountable to continually move forward with my goals and dreams and sh#t I said I will do but never had the time to do it.
Let me get clear before I even start talking about the money and the value coaching provides.
You don’t need coaching. There is nothing wrong with you. Actually, nobody needs coaching. People CHOOSE to have a coach to help them go to the next level in their lives. To go from my life is ok to an awesome amazing radiant life.
To help you discover what you want for yourself and why is it not in your life yet?
What’s stopping you and how to overcome fears and limitations you have put on yourself. To grow businesses. To get married. To become expats. To build their dreams. To be happy with who they are.
So, now that you know that there is nothing wrong with you and you don’t actually need coaching. Are you choosing to get curious of what’s possible in your life or scroll to the next image on Instagram? Yeah, I thought you would stay.
So, is it really worth the money?
Let me share some of the examples and results of my clients and let you decide whether coaching is worth it and how much.
I have recently worked with a client who was single for over 10 years. Who has had a history of bad relationships where boundaries were being crossed over and over. There was a history of abuse. Fear of rejection. Fear of never meeting anybody. Fear of being alone. Fear of being abused again. Basically, fear fear fear. How can you possibly meet somebody from that place?
Imagine how many beautiful, smart and intelligent women live their lives in fear and loneliness.
Now, what if I told you that this same woman has completely changed her story of who she was and what she was worth. Who feels so confident in her own skin and ready to date again. To be vulnerable. To be real. To be honest with the man she has met (YAY) and dating now.
We don’t know if he is her soul mate, but what I do know is that she will never go back to that scared little girl she was. She is now a confident vibrant woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid to make it happen. For the first time she is actually excited to be out there dating. Pssst. She won’t stop until she is happy. I know this about her.
Please put a price tag on her life. How much is it worth?
Here is another example of a young woman I have worked with.
Imagine a young woman getting ready for the interview. She puts her make up on. She has prepared beautiful clothes to wear. She leaves her home just in time to take a train downtown. She gets on the train and start to feel anxious. She is trying to calm herself down. Intellectually she understands there is nothing to be afraid of, but the fear and panic take over. She gets off the train and goes back home. She crawls in her bed feeling like a complete failure, but she needs a job. So, the following week the same scenario happens. And the week after that.
When we meet she just cries through the session. She can’t even talk about it.
Now, what if I have proudly told you that this same woman who was afraid to even go to the interview. Not only got a fantastic job that was not even on her radar as a possibility. What if she not only enjoys going to work, but she wants to now move downtown. To explore the big city. To go to events. To meet new people and make new connections. Would you believe it is the same woman who was afraid to even go to the interview? Would you believe she has not only accepted who she was and how she was wired but embraced who she was. She feels confident. She feels intelligent. She feels capable of big projects. She feels like she can conquer the world, but most importantly
she is so alive and has this enormous desire to experience life herself instead of watching other people live theirs.
Great salary was just a bonus to how she feels about herself.
How much is that worth? Help me put a price tag on it and how different her life will be moving forward?
Those are just a few examples that have touched me deeply in the last 6 months and had me get very clear on why I do what I do.
With a good powerful coach you will see things beyond your wildest imagination. Once you see them – you will do them. When you do things beyond and above what you have ever done – it will change they way you see yourself and what you believed was possible for you and your life. How cool is that? To have someone on your team who helps you go to the next level while holding your hand but also kicking your ass every week? Coaching is a luxury, not a necessity. I don’t work with dysfunctional people. I work with clients who want change and have ambitions and potential. They are ready to jump start their lives and expand their world.
So, If you are reading this and thinking wow, those cases are intense. I am nothing like that. They actually need to see a professional, but I am ok. Who am I to have a coach? My life is not that bad. …
Let me tell you that minimizing your own pain and unhappiness is not serving you nor your life.
We love comparing ourselves to somebody who has it worse and feeling good about ourselves. I have done it my whole life. My life wasn’t that bad. My pain wasn’t as bad as someone else’s. My unhappiness was unreasonable. My desire to be more was selfish. My ambitions were ridiculous. And on and on it goes.
Now put a price tag on your own life
- What’s the cost of hating your job?
- What’s the cost of waking up lost and confused about the trajectory of your life?
- What’s the cost of being single?
- What’s the cost of never starting your dream job?
- What’s the cost of never having a baby?
- What’s the cost of being lonely?
If there is one thing I want you take away from reading this post it is this: How I feel matters. I matter. My life matters.
I am inviting you to grab my free gift on how to stop criticizing yourself. It is 5 step tool in a PDF format. It will explain to you why you do what you do and the impact it has on you and your life.
I am always here if you want to chat with me. I want to support you even if It is just a 30 minute phone call. I want you to know that you need to take responsibility for your own happiness and take steps to change your reality. Nobody is coming to save you. Do it for yourself. You can schedule your free consult with me today.
I love reading comments, so if this post is resonating with you leave a comment and if you don’t agree with me also leave a comment. I would like to start a discussion.
Let’s connect on FB. Until then, be gentle with yourself. The whole world is trying to make you small – be the cheerleader in your own life. XO XO Anya